We want to seem enthusiastic and easygoing. We want to make it easy for him to ask us out again. We want a man to know we're interested in him. I know how frustrating it is to sit back and let a man take the lead.

He can feel smothered in a way that dampens his desire to get closer to you. In an online dating environment, it is perfectly acceptable to indicate interest in a man.īut after you've had a chance to meet, some men see repeated messages from you as a sign of insecurity - a sign of fear that you'll lose him. Your desire to touch base and get greater clarity into the relationship feels normal to you, and it may usually occur as a good-hearted attempt to stay in touch with a man who has piqued your interest.īut it's important to understand how he might see this activity. Some men may back off their dating efforts when they sense you are assuming a role they view as traditionally male. Many men perceive check-ins, invitations, and questions about the relationship as a kind of pressure or a woman taking on the role of pursuer. In fact, you may feel that he'll just see you as being friendly and want to get closer to you.īut it's important to be cautious when reaching out to a potential romantic interest - especially with repeated messages. Inviting him to come and join you, or in any way acting like the social director of the relationship.Īt first glance, these actions might seem completely harmless.Asking him how he feels - especially asking him how he feels about you or the relationship.

E-mailing him, texting him, Facebooking him, sending him a cute card, dropping by his house, or in any way attempting to initiate some kind of contact.

Calling to ask why he hasn't called you.

Calling him because you heard or read about something interesting, or because you knew there was a great band playing somewhere, or someone told you about some great event that you want to invite him to.

We want to make sure he knows we like him.

When we find ourselves falling for a man, it's normal to start feeling that if we don't show enough interest in him he might get the wrong message and drift away. We started to 'think' our way through love instead of FEEL our way through it - and as a result, we've all been practically TRAINED in how to NOT connect with a man's heart!įor instance: If you think you're just being 'friendly' with a man by sending him a flirty text or baking him a birthday cake, you could be getting in the way of the kind of courtship you desire. We started to make checklists and 'get things done'.We started to pursue men the way we pursue work, or our schedules, or errands.These days, after feminism changed the way we looked at our real POWER in this world, our relationships with men got even more confusing: What does 'chasing' a man even LOOK like? Can you be chasing him and not even know it?

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